If You're SO OVER Resolutions But You're Still Craving Direction. . .and Focus.
I have failed miserably when it comes to New Year’s Resolutions.
Mostly because they were motivated by some unspoken “should”s. You should lose weight/get healthier. You should save more money/make more money. You should organize and purge all the things. The lists went on. Year after year. Trying to will myself into being…different. And if you’ve ever bought a gym membership in January you know - willpower is a finite resource.
Enter last year. . .
This time I was going to choose intentions (resolutions banished). I chose 3 little words that would guide my year.
Except, after choosing them I promptly forgot my “intentions”. I didn’t take the time to connect them with my core values. Or, more practically, my to-do list. I had no idea HOW they would fit into or influence my life just that those were 3 things I’d really like to experience.
And perhaps, not surprisingly, I didn’t make much headway.
It’s 2019 and I’ma try this again.
I’m picking 4 words (which is extraordinary when you’re a writer) and linking them to the things that are important to me and the 4 big, glorious goals I’m working towards this year.
Inspiration - this goes both ways. I want to BE an inspiration. And, I want to EXPERIENCE inspiration. Everywhere. All the damn time.
Rhythm - finding one that feels juuust right. In all areas of my life. A rhythm that’s sustainable, flexible, and nourishing. A rhythm that allows me to be productive AND take excellent care of myself.
Effortlessness - because things don’t always have to be so damned difficult. Because my worth is not determined by the numbers of hours I grind it out. Because I have a habit of overcomplicating EVERYTHING when simple is always easier and more elegant. (and who doesn’t want more elegance?)
Devotion - to completion. To learning. To expansion. To Spirit. To telling stories. To my kids. To growth in everything but my waistline.
And the 4 big, glorious goals I’m working towards this year?
1. The House. I’m going to find the house that will be a sanctuary for my kids and myself. A space that will become a well of inspiration. A house where I can create a rhythm of life and business, of creation and silence, of love and ease. A house that finds its way effortlessly into my life - oh, I’ll still keep looking but when everything is right it’ll all click into place. A space where I can devote myself to the people I love and supports the way I show up.
2. Deeper Than Words. I’m going to finish and launch Deeper Than Words - it’s currently undergoing a huge transformation (but it’s going to be SO good). Here’s where I get to BE the inspiration. To create a work/rest/work cycle that feels sustainable and energizing. I want to find a way to market it that feels effortless - for me…and fun. I’m devoted to finishing. Devoted to teaching and finding new ways to serve through this course.
3. Balance. Scratch that. Balance was one of the words I started with. The unique-to-me flow of work/family/self-care/Spirit/poetry/prose that feels…nourishing. Then I realized that the word balance came with some heavy connotations/baggage like - everything receiving equal amounts of attention. ( #notenoughhoursintheday ). And the reminders of how often I have failed to balance things in a healthy way.
This time I’m going to find a rhythm that works for me + family. I’m kinda in love with the word rhythm. Rhythms shift. They happen in cycles. Fast then slow. Ebb and flow. And adjusting as I go.
4. Explore. New places. New people. Greater healing. Spirituality. Storytelling. Inspiration in. New perspectives illuminated. Effortlessly led to new ideas. Devotion to growth by looking in. And out.
These guiding words + glorious goals lead to some juicy questions…and maybe that’s the whole point.
What can I explore today?
How can I create the sanctuary space I crave right here? Right now?
What can I finish today? Or take one step closer to finishing?
Remember the rhythm.
Remember the rhythm.
Remember the rhythm.